Over 30 introverted simmer, that creates sims with stories in mind but I rarely share anything about them because my anxiety won't let me be great.....
US SUICIDE PREVENTION HOTLINE IS CHANGING ITS NUMBER
Taking effect July 2022, the US Suicide Prevention Hotline will change from 800-273-8255 to the three digit code of 988. Especially with families and communities reeling from back to back tragedies, it is super important to share this information!
Repeat: Starting July 2022, the US Suicide Prevention Hotline will be 988
Important add-ons, though, as someone who’s done policy work on this:
It’s July 16, not just the start of July.
988 can not only be used as the suicide hotline, but for any sort of mental health or substance use crisis situation. As opposed to 911, the goal of 988 is that when dispatch is necessary, you’ll be met with a trained crisis response team rather than the police. The police will only be involved if there is an immediate threat to safety, which has almost never occurred in pilot programs - in one of the most well-known, Denver STAR, (which a lot of y’all seem to be familiar with) the police has actually never been called for backup. We’re hoping that this is going to get more individuals directed towards help rather than a prison cell.
Uhm yeah I’ll add more stuff if I can think of anything.
Thank you for the added information. Reblog this version as well, folkz.
Please do not let debt collectors play in your face.
I am super busy so I honestly don’t even know if I should be taking the time to write this, but hopefully this will help those of you who may find yourself in a similar situation.
Earlier this year I received a letter of notice from a debt collector stating that they had acquired a debt supposedly belonging to me and that, per law, I have 30 days to dispute the debt. I immediately drafted a letter and sent it to both disputing the debt and request validation of the debt as well as possible settlement arrangements had they actually been able to validate said debt
I sent this letter via certified mail. Always certified mail.
About a week after the 30 day period for them to respond expired, I received a Phone call very specifically crafted in a way to invoke urgency and panic and suggest legal action. So, naturally, I called this number only to discover this was a different company that had only just recently acquired said supposed debt. I reiterated to them that I was disputing this debt and required validation in writing.
The initial conversation went smoothly, they then called me back the next day and became aggressive. They accused me of lying and did everything under the sun to try and trick me into validating this debt as mine so that they would not have to legally send me that validation. I, knowing my rights, insisted that I was disputing the debt and that they were required to send me validation despite them claiming that they were not and that they already had and many other number of lies. I refused to continue the conversation until someone had sent me validation to which they continually responded that they would be forwarding this to their legal department and blah blah blah blah blah.
Surprise surprise, I get a phone call today from yet another company, this one claiming to be in the process of forwarding my account to the county clerks office. That was an immediate red flag as the county clerk does not handle debt disputes. They would have to hire a lawyer in my state to handle this case. I asked what company this was as they had not stated initially, and when they told me I realized this was now another company who had purchased said alleged debt and we’re trying to collect on it. this one outright illegally threatening to take me to court knowing they weren’t.
Beyond that, he tried to lie to me and tell me that a debt validation was not what I thought it was and that a validation was actually just a notice that they had purchased a debt so when I received a letter stating that they had purchased this debt that would be a validation.
That is not true! Debt companies are legally required to send you notice of an allegedly acquired debt in writing and you have 30 days to dispute and request that validation. The company then has 30 days themselves to respond and validate your debt or the debt is forfeit. This man tried to lie to me and tell me that a notice was the same thing as a dead validation in order to trick me into paying a debt that he cannot validate that I am actively disputing.
This is now the fourth company that has attempted to collect on a debt they cannot validate. They know they cannot validate this debt and instead have relied on trying to trick me into paying it. These tactics would absolutely work if I did not have a sales background and or know my rights.
And this ladies and gentlemen is why you always always always dispute a debt. The last debt I disputed was immediately pulled from collections and that allowed me to get back in contact with the original creditor and work out a payment plan so that it would never hit my credit and keep my account with them current. This debt is invalid and therefore they cannot hit my credit with it nor can I collect on it or I will sue them.
If you guys have any questions about dealing with that collectors please ask me.
Are you like me and download most of your lots? Do those lots contain all the CC needed to make it look like the pics? Is this as convenient for you as it is for me? WELL THEN YOU NEED: *drum roll* The Sims Mod Assistant!
If you answered yes to those questions, you probably have a bloated Mods folder. From 114GB to 74GB in a click of a button. I have been putting this off for SO long y’all. SO LONG! As organized as my Mod folder is, I’ve never once crossed checked for duplicates and conflicts (okay maybe once).
If you don’t have a similar tool, I highly recommend this one. Easy interface, easy everything. GO GET THIS! I’ve been using this all morning so if you need help and the creator isn’t around, I CAN HELP YOU!
You know what prompted me? And it’s always something…. I am taking my current gameplay too Granite Falls and something in my folder was overwriting all of the wood objects from Outdoor Retreat with a horrible default retexture. I searched and couldn’t find ANYTHING in my folder or google! It had to go because in my clean saves I play MM and even for my main saves (Indya) which are mostly alpha, that texture was just gross lol And here we are…. you’ll thank me later!
It is okay to start big projects like a legacy, a story, a challenge etc. But it’s also okay not to finish them for whatever reason you have, even if you just got bored of them. You don’t even have to make excuses or apologize for it - we are all people, and those who matter will understand. Be spontaneous and don’t make long-term plans if you feel like you can’t handle them - do whatever makes you happy right now.
I used to think I’m posting for fun, but I wasn’t, for this exact reason: I was starting a lot of things and was fixated on finishing everything. Instead of posting/doing what I wanted at the moment (and I have changes of heart pretty often, it’s hard for me to stick to one thing), I pressured myself to complete some stuff first (e.g. a certain legacy generation) simply not to leave it hanging, even if I wasn’t inspired for it anymore. I won’t even mention that editing/drafting/sharing it on your blog also takes plenty of energy, and I constantly felt the need to update my queue. It became more of an “god, I still have to finish this legacy and post it…” than “I want to play this legacy!”. This, among other things, led to a huge burnout that affected my ability to play and enjoy it properly, and it’s a shame because sims is supposed to be a hobby and not a chore.
Your followers really won’t die if you stop posting a certain save or pause your posting in general, even if they absolutely loved it. And you’re not obliged to finish it if you don’t want to - you won’t get a medal for, say, reaching gen 10 of the legacy or completing some challenge. Your mental well-being comes first.
Speaking of challenges, you don’t have to follow all of its rules. It’s your gameplay, you can adjust it however you like, and there’s no challenge police that will come and tell you that you failed.
Listen to yourself. Sometimes you may have some ambitious idea that you want to bring to life, but ask yourself: realistically, how many of your resources will it take? Is it worth it, or maybe there can be an alternative, more relaxed thing that you can do? (e.g. less generations, a smaller story, time skips etc.)
It’s also okay to take breaks and play/post whenever you feel like it. I used to worry about people unfollowing while I’m not posting, but I started taking unfollows less seriously - it means these people are simply not your audience, and it’s okay. There will always be others.
POV based on a true story: you’re posting something and not really enjoying it, but you feel like your followers may be. But, chances are, they don’t even need it that much either, and you’re burning yourself out for no reason.
It may be hard, but try not to engage with anonymous hate or people who are provoking you. They are cowards hiding behind the screen without any consequences. As I learned, it will only make you feel worse to get involved into debates with them, because their purpose is to make you feel bad, not to listen to your point of view. Happy and confident people don’t go around spreading hate or accusations, so don’t let them tarnish your enjoyment.
No amount of stressing over notes, trying to follow popular trends and impress the public will ever replace genuine joy in doing what your heart wants and sharing it with those who care most. In the end, this is all that matters.
to lovely humans who were excluded from invitations, left behind when they tied their shoes, forced to walk in the grass when the sidewalk was full, spoken over when you tried to contribute, whispered about or laughed at, given the side eye when you tried to fit in… you are so worthy of love and I’m sorry people have convinced you otherwise. I promise that your people are out there - people who will see the side of you others ignore, people who share weird inside jokes with you, give you affectionate nicknames and go to museums or roadtrips with you and fulfil whatever idea of friendship you’ve always fantasized about. even if you feel like an empty shell of your former self because you’ve hidden yourself away due to shame, this exterior will melt when you accept yourself or let people in and you’ll realize there was nothing wrong with you all along. you have interesting things to say, you deserve new chances and beginnings, your heart is probably made of gold because you know what it’s like to be left out in the cold, and you have so much to give. you are so worthy and someone’s idea of a friend too, and I hope you receive lots of hugs in the future from yourself and others because you’re so lovable.
